lately my sleeping pattern has been so screwed up because of that stupid lung infection that I suffered. I've been sleeping at 5-7 in the morning in which i normally i wake up at that time. It really sucks because by the time i wake up, half the day is already gone. Plus there is that feeling of loneliness that you cant avoid when you feel so alone and you got no one to talk to coz everyone is sleeping. then last night, I ended up passingout my bed before 1 am which lead to me waking up at 5:30 this morning. this is probably the 1st time i woke up before 9 am since the semester ended. I decided to take advantage of this moment so i jumped out my bed, took my pills, put on my shoes on then I was out my house to run. I planned on using the same route I used last year which is a 6 mile path around my town of kearny. this is the first time im running since my knee injury in april so Im pacing myself lightly. after 3 miles, my knee started hurting so i had to slow down. I really hate it when my body cant keep up with what my mind wants to do. this plague me my whole life but i really cant do anything about it but to adapt to the situation. during this time is when I had a great idea. I decided to set up a goal for myself. I usually set up goals that are hard but reachable for me (last summer i decided to read 5 books, I ended up finishing 8). this year I decided that im going to run atleast 100 miles for the summer. I already started thinking on how im going to do this. Im planning to run my 6 mile path 2-3 times a week which will be 12-18 miles a week which means I can finish my goal in 6-8 weeks if i stayed with the game plan. It sounds pretty easy but I know already that it wouldnt be specially because of my lifestyle. I already have 3 different vacation plans for the summer and ofcourse driving school, working and searching for a new job is also in my way. this is going to be an interesting summer! anyone wanna bet?
total miles: 6 out of 100
>neo
QOTD:
"Always make your presence felt in such a way that somebody misses you, but let not your absense be so long that somebody starts learning to live without you" -pope Benedict XVI
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Friday, June 12, 2009
good guy
During my days in the den, I remember one dude asking me this question:
“...why do all the bad boys and douchebags always seem to get all the girls?... Do good guys really always finish last? Am I forever doomed unless I start being an asshole??”
I remember asking almost the exact same questions to Dr D when I was a newbie. I basically told him the same answer that Dr.D gave me which is the standard sales pitch for the den:
"Why do you think you're here the 1st place? Because being a good guy is not getting you anywhere. Probably because you're sick and tired of being that guy that is overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated... that's why you are here, to learn how to pick up girls but being a nice guy is not a very good approach to it..."
i really just wanted to say a simple "ofcourse not", but i cant, its a business, We'll loose tons customers if i speak out my opinion about it and this people are willing to pay us thousands of dollars just to learn how to be successful with women. i know its a sad reality that “good” guys have become the proverbial retarded step children of american culture, dropped and dismissed, disgraced and defeated, discarded and defrocked . regardless of where you look, there’s concrete proof that they also consistently get the short end of the romantic stick. it’s always been true, and will probably always continue to be. these facts are inescapable, like a rear naked choke.
right?
wait…right?
wrong.
other than hallmark cards, theres no bigger ongoing scam in american culture than the idea that truly good guys finish “last” romantically.
i have myriad facts to prove my claim, but for the sake of time and space, i’ll only dive into one
a faulty definition of “first”
we have to re-examine this definition of “first”, because if all the good people are finishing last, someone has to be “first”, right? well, if you define “first” as “getting more attention from the opposite sex, and appearing to have more dates and/or prospects“, then yes, maybe those with a bit more of an edge, a bit more swagger, a bit more potential danger, and a bit more superficial sex appeal finish “first” more often.
the thing is, if bagging more chicks is your definition of “first”, then maybe you’re really not all that “good” of a person anyway!
but, if by finishing “first” you mean “having more success finding sincere and loving and compatible mates, and sustaining positive romantic relationships“, then i couldn’t stress “no” strong enough. everybody, regardless of their status and disposition, has difficulty finding this, and i’d even argue that the “not-good” guys and urban models bad girls have the most difficulty, because of the never-ending game and ubiquitous trust issues that come along with that territory and leave them perpetually bitter and jaded.
maybe they won’t win the first couple of sprints, but in the marathon of life, i’ll bet my money on the good guy to finish “first”. maybe that trophy at the end won’t be exactly what they desired, but it aint all about the “trophy” though, is it?
>neo vsb
QOTD:
"Just when you think things cant get any worse, they do. I've learned that life is like an hour glass sand. Sooner or later. everything hits rock bottom, but all you have to do is be patient and wait for something to turn everything back around"
“...why do all the bad boys and douchebags always seem to get all the girls?... Do good guys really always finish last? Am I forever doomed unless I start being an asshole??”
I remember asking almost the exact same questions to Dr D when I was a newbie. I basically told him the same answer that Dr.D gave me which is the standard sales pitch for the den:
"Why do you think you're here the 1st place? Because being a good guy is not getting you anywhere. Probably because you're sick and tired of being that guy that is overlooked, underestimated, and unappreciated... that's why you are here, to learn how to pick up girls but being a nice guy is not a very good approach to it..."
i really just wanted to say a simple "ofcourse not", but i cant, its a business, We'll loose tons customers if i speak out my opinion about it and this people are willing to pay us thousands of dollars just to learn how to be successful with women. i know its a sad reality that “good” guys have become the proverbial retarded step children of american culture, dropped and dismissed, disgraced and defeated, discarded and defrocked . regardless of where you look, there’s concrete proof that they also consistently get the short end of the romantic stick. it’s always been true, and will probably always continue to be. these facts are inescapable, like a rear naked choke.
right?
wait…right?
wrong.
other than hallmark cards, theres no bigger ongoing scam in american culture than the idea that truly good guys finish “last” romantically.
i have myriad facts to prove my claim, but for the sake of time and space, i’ll only dive into one
a faulty definition of “first”
we have to re-examine this definition of “first”, because if all the good people are finishing last, someone has to be “first”, right? well, if you define “first” as “getting more attention from the opposite sex, and appearing to have more dates and/or prospects“, then yes, maybe those with a bit more of an edge, a bit more swagger, a bit more potential danger, and a bit more superficial sex appeal finish “first” more often.
the thing is, if bagging more chicks is your definition of “first”, then maybe you’re really not all that “good” of a person anyway!
but, if by finishing “first” you mean “having more success finding sincere and loving and compatible mates, and sustaining positive romantic relationships“, then i couldn’t stress “no” strong enough. everybody, regardless of their status and disposition, has difficulty finding this, and i’d even argue that the “not-good” guys and urban models bad girls have the most difficulty, because of the never-ending game and ubiquitous trust issues that come along with that territory and leave them perpetually bitter and jaded.
maybe they won’t win the first couple of sprints, but in the marathon of life, i’ll bet my money on the good guy to finish “first”. maybe that trophy at the end won’t be exactly what they desired, but it aint all about the “trophy” though, is it?
>neo vsb
QOTD:
"Just when you think things cant get any worse, they do. I've learned that life is like an hour glass sand. Sooner or later. everything hits rock bottom, but all you have to do is be patient and wait for something to turn everything back around"
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